40 million people have tried online dating – and one-quarter of all couples meet through dating websites! So – why haven’t you found anyone online yet? Grant Langston is a senior director at eHarmony, and he’s come out with a list of 4 overused phrases you need to take off your profile now.
Starting with: “I’m down to earth.” Langston says it’s meaningless – because even a complete narcissist may think they’re down to earth. And saying it really only shows that you have no creativity. He says, what you’re really trying to say is that you’re a humble, go-with-the-flow kind of person. So give an example like, “I’m as comfortable at the opera as I am roasting smore’s around a campfire.
The next phrase to take off your dating profile: “I love to laugh.” So does everyone else. Langston says what you’re trying to say is that you think you have a good sense of humor. But that can be subjective. Instead, tell people what makes you laugh. List your favorite comedies – that’ll give someone an idea of your sense of humor.
• Another bad dating profile phrase:
“I just want a nice guy.” Langston says – no you don’t. Sure, women want a person with a good heart – but they also want someone who’s compelling and interesting. But leaving it at “a nice guy” doesn’t give a guy much information to go on – and doesn’t narrow the playing field.
- And the final phrase to take off your dating profile: “I can’t believe I’m doing this!” What that really means is, “I don’t really need online dating because I have a line of people waiting to date me!” But Langston says, if you did, you wouldn’t be on a dating site. It degrades the process and the other people on the site.
So what does Langston say you should ADD to your dating profile? The word “passion.” He says people want a partner who feels passionately about something – whether it’s modern art, Italian cooking or kickboxing. It shows you have a life. And by declaring something as your passion, you’ll weed out people who don’t feel the same way, and attract those who do.